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Ever grateful are we humans with hands. Fingers, thumbs and palms for holding, touching and feeling people and things. The duty of the hand is managed by the impulses in the brain. Head itches, fingers scratch. Phone rings, hands grasp.
From the Hand Analysts eyes, the hands reflect the preferences and capabilities of the owner of the hands. Like the cardiologist reads the heart waves, the dentist reads the gums in the mouth and the baby reads fear on her mother’s face, palmists read the hands and decipher the owners likes and dislikes.
Take a look at your open palm at eye level, with fingers extended. Notice the mountains erupting from the palm. They form pads on the hands. In Palmistry, these are known as Mounts. The highest mountains or Mounts tell me about your preferred behaviors and interests. For example, if you have a full and protruding Jupiter Mount (Mount under the index finger on the top of the palm – see hand map) you will be inclined to lead, influence, and wield some level of power. You may have people ‘following’ you because of the successful use of your trigger finger. On a bad day you may become tyrannical and dictatorial.
The hand map shows the general areas for the Mounts and their very basic associated descriptions. With a full Moon Mount you are imaginative, dreamy, mystical and intuitive. These are all characteristics that support being creative; maybe even a story teller or fictional writer.
Flat Mounts on the palm are normal. Sunken Mounts tells me you might feel limited in that particular aspect of your character. For example, a sunken Moon Mount would indicate that mysticism, imagination and day dreaming may not be of interest to you at this time. The condition of the Mounts can change over time as your inclinations change over time.
Blisters, cuts, bruises and warts point out life occurrences depending on the zone of the hand they are located. At the simplest level you can say, “I feel cut off from my imagination right now” when there is a cut across the Moon Mount. As with life, there are deeper meanings which support our personal development.
Feel free to email me at email@example.com if you have a question. I’m available for 30, 60 and 90 minute hand readings in person or over the phone. We’ll look at what the Mounts on your Palms have to say about you. Your Soul’ code will also be deciphered from your fingerprints. This is an opportunity for deeper awareness and clarity on your life journey.
By Hand Analyst Kay Packard
The heart line is usually one of the most noticeable etchings in your palm. A large part of your emotional requirements system can be deciphered from this one particular line. The heart line starts on the outer edge of your palm, under your pinkie (Mercury) finger, and sprints along the top of the palm closest to the base of your fingers. For the hand analyst, the ending point of the line is the key factor in determining your emotional preferences.
Since we employ our emotions when interacting with others, I use this line to identify the relationship requirements system of the owner of the hand. Clients have found it very helpful to understand, clarify and articulate how they like to be treated in relationship? Knowing the preferences of others and adjusting to meet their needs is also crucial for maintaining relationships.
The Passionate Heart
Non-negotiable need: Stimulation
True Love: Passion
Theme Song: Girls (or Boys) Just Want to Have Fun
The Passionate Heart line is easy to see in this photo (left) marked in red. It crosses the upper palm and ends up under the middle (Saturn) finger.
The Passionate Heart is ‘me’ oriented. She (or he) has interactive tendencies that are fiery, excitable, fun loving, and zealous. He or she wants spontaneity in the relationship. You and everyone else will typically know what she wants and she expects you to do the same. When going on vacation she may select where to go and sign up for all the fun things to do based on her muse. She has no problem being the center of attention and emotionally independent (baring other contradictory markings in the hands and fingers).
Unlike the Big Heart, others’ needs and wants typically do not come before the Passionate Heart – until she’s in her advanced state. Neither is right or wrong. It’s all about emotional preferences in relationship at Life University. Honoring our preferred style is a sacred act to our self.
The longer the heart line is, the more time the owner spends in it. Because the heart line represents the emotional system and this heart line is long and curvy, there is strong desire for emotional ‘reaction’. Feelings are ‘worn on the sleeve’. When connections are broken, she typically moves on.
If you live with a Passionate Heart, two beneficial things you can do is 1) keep things exciting and 2) give her space to snap, crackle and pop. A sharp verbal reaction with arms flailing is not to be taken personally. Let her move through the animation. An advanced Passionate Heart considers the desires of others too.
One of my friends has this line of “passion”. We’ll call him Elvis. His likes and dislikes are very strong and absolutely known. Elvis thrives on quads, motor cycles, 4-wheeling and NASCAR. Elvis has learned to ‘include’ his wife and children by buying toys for them too – whether they want it or not. When I visit, he puts us all in his mini-jeep and we crawl up un-chartered hillsides over rocks and through the mud. We don’t worry; the vehicle has a roll bar!
Note of caution: You have TWO hands, therefore two heart lines. Your dominant hand displays characteristics to the ‘outer’ public world. Your less dominant hand shows traits revealed at ‘home’ where you’re most comfortable and not on display. The description from the heart lines are only one aspect of so many that can be read in the hands. Also, this is not an exercise in predictions or fortune telling, although a fortune will may find!
Eckhart Tolle Hand Analysis by Kay Packard, AHA
While watching the DVD “Finding Your Life’s Purpose” on a whim I found myself sketching Eckhart Tolle’s left hand. After countless pausing, rewinding, forwarding and more pausing, the drawing below appeared. While less accurate than a physical hand print or reading Tolle’s hand in person, I found this process to work quite well with an abundance of characteristics revealed.
First I must admit to loving Eckhart’s hands because of the impression I sense of compassion, softness, vulnerability, sturdiness, philosophy, ancient knowledge and muse. Would I feel this if I didn’t know ‘about’ him? I don’t know. I didn’t see his hands prior to my profession as a hand analyst.
Eckhart’s actual palm is probably a bit wider than my roughly sketched rendition. His fingers illustrate a slightly wispy watery element. I’ve consulted my library of hand shapes to categorize his hands.
Fitting Eckhart’s hands into any one hand-shape type is, for me, quite a challenge. I assessed the various hand shapes popularized by D’Arpentigny and Fred Gettings. I can see a combination of Conic, Psychic and Philosophic; in that order.
The Conic nature is motivated by surroundings and aesthetics. Eckhart typically has flowers on stage and references them during his lectures. I wouldn’t be surprised to see a beautiful setting within and outside his home. The Conic is typically sensitive to criticism which makes it tricky to continually show up; to be reliable. He mentioned on the recording in 2008 in San Rafael that he had thought about retiring in the previous year. However, he got a phone call from Oprah. It’s hard to get more approval than a solicitation and promotion from one of the most influential and recognized women in the world!
I see the Psychic hand in terms of slenderness and smoothness of fingers but without the pointy tips. Eckhart displays a sense of holiness and faith. He is contemplative.
The air-element [rectangular and shoe-box shape] is easy to spot in his hand shape. Therefore, I also see the Philosophic hand. One aspect of the Philosophic hand is enlarged knots. While I would not say Eckhart has ‘enlarged’ knots they are noticeable from the back side. This would support his efforts to bring Divine ‘reason’ into his practice. The Philosophic type is a truth-seeker.
In simplest terms, I identify the hand with the elements of air (mentally seeking to understand, analytic, and investigating and witty) and water (empathetic, sensitive, receptive, caring, and adaptable). Richard Unger’s system would classify this combination as “The Counselor.” This is the individual who seeks to understand the emotions yet is able to step away and remain detached. Air brings order to the waves of the storming seas. He can appear to be aloof but he really does care – deeply.
The conic tips, on all Eckhart’s fingers and thumbs, show his creative, artistic, impulsive, quick and intuitive nature where beauty and harmony is a preferred environment. He is influenced by his surroundings. The backdrop of his existence, at this point, is the totality of the Universe. The challenge for the owner of these lovely tips is disapproval. My educated guess is Eckhart may have had to work to overcome all sorts of fear of rejection in coming out to the Western culture with such new and controversial ideas as “there is no time” and/or “your primary purpose is to align yourself with this moment without [it] being a means to an end.” The American culture has thrived on doing as a means to an end; to succeed.
Capturing the lines in the palms of Eckhart presented the most challenge when pausing, rewinding, forwarding, rewinding, pausing, forwarding….. the DVD on my 24” Philips Magnavox television set. However, I feel fairly confident in my final results, as shown in my diagram.
Without a doubt Eckhart’s life line is long and deep. I do not read the life line to predict how long the owner will live. If I did, I’d have been dead ten years ago. My life line ends at the 6th mark, age 36, on Comte C de Saint Germain’s measurement chart. What can be said is I began a new phase of life at that time with my divorce.
The way I read Eckhart’s life line is that he is ‘rooted into the earth’, has ability to ‘ground’ quickly, is perhaps tied into the family values and has a strong sense of vitality and alive-ness. He inspires listeners to live-in-the-moment and cleverly encourages using the breath as a guideline.
Eckhart’s heart line took the most effort to identify from the freeze-framing. At first I observed a short, earth type heart line terminating below Saturn. Pamelah Landers calls this the Hermit Heart Line. This owner can gladly claim having a non-negotiable need for freedom. Sanctuary is a requirement. In Eckhart’s case, he counsels followers how to find and live in freedom through experiencing the Now. There can be no greater freedom than being present, experiencing the formless in a moment of eternal consciousness.
Alternatively, in one section of the DVD, I caught a glimpse (on pause) of the heart line extending up toward and ending just under Jupiter. This is the water type or Big Heart heart line which illustrates the caring, nurturing, feeling, and ‘wanting to relate’ characteristics. At this point, because I observed both types of heart lines, I won’t settle on one. If I’m given the opportunity to read his hands in person, I’ll let you know.
Something I find of great interest in Eckhart’s hand is that both his head line and his fate line have a point in the Moon zone. The head line represents the human computing capability. Therefore he’ll have thoughts about qualities of the Moon (see below) and he will process mentally with intuition (Moon). Ultimately, intuition is only revealed in the Now. Eckhart has made this quite well-known; perhaps a great discovery for the West. Richard Unger calls the upper zone of the Moon “the Eureka zone.” Eckhart’s discovery was brought to stage with his long Apollo fingers and Apollo line, which I’ll talk about soon.
The Moon zone also represents intuition, meaning, subconscious, imagination, dreams, inner guidance and one’s Core Identity. With Eckhart’s fate line navigating out of this area, he’s driven from a ‘must for meaning’. What is meaningful? This Sage wants us to ‘Know the Source of That Which runs us’. Eckhart’s drive to understand the significance of life has been a rudder for his expedition and teachings.
Now, combine Eckhart’s nice plump and puffy upper Mercury finger zone and we have the clever and calculating brainstormer; or reformer. He very eloquently reframes our thoughts and beliefs to perceive consciousness (Moon). Eckhart invites us to become aware of Presence by ceasing thought. How can we stop our thoughts and become still? He offers three examples:
1) Intense activity like rock climbing where the mind is only focused on the moment of hanging on. If other thoughts enter into the scene, the climber is at risk of falling to his/her death.
2) Some sort of shock or trauma where thought ceases to be
3) Something never-before encountered enters the environment, at which time there is no thought until some form of labeling is initiated. Then the thoughts begin again.
Eckhart uses his talent of reframing to describe the future as simply a thought. There is no future; otherwise it would have been discovered by now. Both the past and the future are only thoughts. Once we arrive into the future, it is still the ‘now.’ And the past is undeniably gone. We restructure our perception of the past in our mental super computer.
This man is a natural on stage. His myriad of facial expressions boosts his performance. His Apollo finger is longer than Jupiter thus giving more emphasis to Apollonian ways. His long Apollo finger symbolizes his ability to be in front of a group, expressing (Apollo) ideas (Mercury), in a very creative way. He has made a public impact (Apollo) in the healing arts (Left Mercury). His Apollo line beginning above his heart line and veering toward Mercury shows creative (Apollo) and optimistic (Apollo) communications (Mercury). This flair supports his role as a successful author and speaker.
“The Thumb is like the power station that can make talents come to life,” Vernon Mahabal declares. The set of Eckhart’s Thumb is average indicating his innate ability to accomplish. The angle of opposition is average supporting his desired range of ‘area to manage’ but not necessarily people. He’ll like to work with a group. Others appear to be helping him ‘guide a larger (and larger) garden’ through use of electronic media but I doubt they’re acting as soldiers under his command. I don’t get the impression Eckhart’s goal was to penetrate the world, as he has. He has a long upper Thumb zone representing the Divine will. He has used this to pierce into his ‘Higher will – to connect with higher consciousnesses and to be guided accordingly. As a result he is able to listen to the ‘still small voice’ and catapult his willing students into what he finds important, valuable and meaningful. This includes self discovery, awareness and abiding in the formless substance of our True Nature.
So what might be the bad-day scenarios for Eckhart?
- Fear of rejection from the public and self criticism (Apollo) (or possibly Oprah)
- Crisis of meaning and isolation (Moon)
- Forcing his will over Divine will (long upper Thumb zone)
- Moving into and remaining depressed (Head line into Moon zone)
- Inability to express his feelings (air hand shape) resulting in health issues
- His discovery coming before it’s time and being booed off stage
- Concerns about not pleasing the public and his family (conic tips plus life and head line mixing at starting point).
I’d love to read Eckhart’s fingerprint patterns to determine his Soul’s calling. Prior to birth he elected for certain course material to master at Life University. The life he was born to live is hidden within the blueprint of those skin carvings. The challenges decoded from the fingerprints are growth material for advancement and awakening. He has by no means completed his curriculum. Scholarly? Yes. Master path? Indeed. Graduated? Not yet…. Fortunate for us!
I have certainly taken immense pleasure in examining Eckhart’s left hand. I sense the gift he offers even more deeply and profoundly. Thank you Eckhart Tolle!
Kay Packard is an Advanced Hand Analyst. Her principal education came primarily from Richard Unger, founder of the International Institute of Hand Analysis and his wife Alana Unger. Her intense training began in 2003. Kay has also been heavily influenced by current day Vernon Mahabal, Pamelah Landers and the late William Benham. She has taught the IIHA Hand Analysis Intensive for three years and leads other workshops to encourage self discovery. Continuing clients also experience Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to accelerate their learning and awareness at Life University. Visit www.kaypackard.com
Since we transmit our emotions when interacting with others, I interpret the heart line to identify the relationship requirements system of the owner of the hand. Some people find it favorable to have the ability to understand, clarify and articulate how they like to be treated in relationship. Also, knowing the preferences of others and working to meet their needs is essential for maintaining loving relationships.
The Rational Romantic
Non-negotiable need: Meaning
True Love: Conversation
Shows love through: Consideration
Gift: Analyzing emotions
The Rational Romantic heart line is overlaid with fuchsia ink (above). It traverses the upper palm and ends beneath the index (Jupiter) finger, but farther down into the palm than the Big Heart (last issue).
The Rational Romantic is also ‘other’ oriented. She (or he) is considerate, thought-full, analytical and reasoning with emotions. He or she wants to think through all the possibilities of feelings and then discuss them. She likes to fulfill your requests. To her fighting is painful.
If you live with a Rational Romantic, one of the most beneficial things you can do is 1) converse with her and 2) allow her think, think, think about how she feels, feels, feels. To others this may appear to be ‘overprocessing’. It’s her natural style to ‘think-through.’ Appreciate her for acting upon your wishes – as a result of her ‘processing’.
It may be helpful to affectionately remind her to consider her own passions and to pursue them besides yours. A balanced Romantic continues to honor others’ requests and is also comfortable voicing her own needs, wants and even demands.
One of my life-long male friends has this heart line of reasoning in romance. He is an involved conversationalist with the crowd and his wife in the group. He can become verbally animated on emotional topics. At times I hear him clarifying what he ‘meant’ to say so that he’s understood correctly. He’ll notice how his words affect the feelings of his wife and consider the effects. He regularly writes adoring words on cards to show his love for her.
Cheers to living your emotional style – naturally.
The heart line in your hand is one of the significant etchings in your palm. A large part of your emotional requirements system can be deciphered from this one line. The heart line starts on the outer edge of your palm, under your pinkie finger, and runs along the top of the palm closest to the base of your fingers. See the print below with red arrow pointing to the line in the palm. The termination of the line is the key factor in determining your emotional preferences.
Since we use our emotions when interacting with others, I use this line to identify your relationship requirements system. Wouldn’t it be beneficial to have the ability to understand, clarify and articulate how you like to be treated in relationship?
Heart Lines 101
Non-negotiable Need: Freedom
True Love: Work and projects
Shows love by: Doing
The Hermit heart line is easy to see in this print (above). The red arrow is pointing to the starting point. It terminates beneath the middle finger.
It’s best not to ask the Hermit to choose between you and their projects. Their love of work doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Their projects may be completed with you in mind. Watch for ways they show their love by doing. Taking care of the yard and car maintenance can be translated into “I love you, honey.” While their loyalty is a gift, it wouldn’t be smart to take advantage of their good nature.
Because this heart line is short, there is less desire for emotional connection. It doesn’t mean they don’t want or like associations, but there is less inclination for relationship. They will prefer fewer high quality and lasting bonds than a high quantity of touchy-feely connections. The Hermit is practical and traditional. Because emotions, like water, are often unpredictable, it’s better to give the Hermit time to marinate on their feelings. They have them, but it takes time to form the water to a container that makes ‘sense’.
If you live with a Hermit, one of the most beneficial things you can do is 1) allow space and 2) do not pressure for a response to an emotional situation. If you find yourself saying,” Tell me how you’re feeling,” W A I T and be unconditionally patient for a response. It may take a week or two. And if you’re a Hermit, you will benefit by communicating and keeping an open heart.
Be on the watch in my next newsletter for a brief description of the Big Heart.
Note of caution: You have TWO hands, therefore two heart lines. The description from the heart lines are only one aspect of so many that can be read in the hands. Also, this is not an exercise in predictions or fortune telling, although a fortune will may find!
Kay is Your Guide for Positive Change using Hand and Fingerprint Analysis to discover your life purpose, Emotional Freedom Techniques to release blocks, and Hypnotherapy to reinforce your decisions to zero in on positive change. She leads workshops to blast you past barriers. It’s time to live the life you were born to live! She is available for private coaching appointments. Check out About Kay and Services
Its official, Project Snowflake is now underway. Fingerprints, like snowflakes, are unique. There are no two snowflakes alike. Fingerprints have a definite and unique message for each owner of those fingerprints.
My first kid-prints were taken in 2003. Snowflake Riley was seven years old then. Now she’s thirteen.
My youngest Snowflake, Talus, is five months old (pictured left). Notice the one line crossing the palm. In this little hand the head and the heart line are combined into one line indicating intense focus. This little guy is learning to master communications as he integrates his thinking (head) and feeling (heart) systems.
Many other kid-prints have been taken since 2003 with associated information revealed to their parents. The results have been profound and helpful to parents. I’ve seen head lines break and re-attach. Deep lines of arching around the Moon have paled over the years. I’ve watched life challenges tap these kids on the shoulder and have been able to offer pin pointed guidance through the changes. Potential antidotes have been shared based on the information decoded from the fingerprints and lines in the hands.
What is Project Snowflake? Selected children’s hands will be printed and photographed periodically over the next ten years – that’s until Dec. 2019. At times of difficulties or positive changes I’ll print again, if possible. Brief interpretations will be shared with the parents and in my newsletters, blog and website.
What is the mission of Project Snowflake?
– Mentoring for children and teens
– Coaching for parents
– Relay inspirational stories
– Stay connected with youth through life changes
– Observe the life purpose and life challenges over time
– Promote benefits from hand and fingerprint analysis
– Awareness that our lives are literally in our hands.
Please join me in watching these snowflakes. I’m totally excited to bring the art and science of hand and fingerprint analysis to the world in this fun and adventurous way.
by Kay Packard
Zeus is famous for being the god of the sky and thunder. He caused catastrophic destruction all in the name of his vision, values, principles and his desire for status and turf. All these characteristics are identified with the trigger finger – the index finger – or in palmistry terms – Jupiter. Jupiter and Zeus are the same character. Cronus, Zeus’ father, ruled over all gods until Zeus dethroned him and seized the power for himself. Zeus lived as the mightiest of all.
Like Zeus, authority figures demonstrate high, moral and righteous characteristics as well as self serving, violating, and compromising characteristics. Power equals fulfilled ideals. Influential people, acting positively, empower others to be powerful.
The trigger finger is named as such because it is used to pull the trigger on the squirt gun or the AK-47 Kalashnikov automatic riffle. It’s used to get things started, to get people to look in a favored direction or to act in a particular way.
Think about what your Jupiter finger does and why. When the index finger is raised to your lips, people usually quiet down. When we want money, we use it to press the buttons at the ATM. It can also set off a chain reaction beyond our minds’ comprehension.
Your Jupiter finger and hands provide evidence as to how you wield your persuasion skills. Look at your index finger. Is it ‘healthy’ looking, tilted, leaning, wide, thin, long, short or even missing? Are parts of it damaged? All of this has significance and can be interpreted by a reputable Hand Analyst. The display of the finger doesn’t make a person better or worse, right or wrong. It simply shows the individuals’ inclination for personal expression of leadership, influence, command, and vision. Is that level of inclination serving positively or negatively?
Long range visioning is associated with the sky god. What you do with your visions relates to your belief in possibilities, the choices you make and the aim of your goals. Dreams and ideals drive action toward accomplishment. The high achiever is good with opposition because she keeps her eye on the prize. A high achiever plays with fear of success and the fear of being tested. She may go through stages of indecisiveness and procrastination. But her ideals, dreams, visions, and determination help get her back on track; re-kindling the ambition. The master puts feelings of inadequacy, intimidation, and numbness to work for herself.
How do you feel about power? What does it mean to you? Where do you witness authority in your life? On the power path many toggle between being a bully on one side and victim on the other. The bully’s approach is to crush everything in sight while on their happy path to authority and dictatorship. The victim’s approach is to hide behind “poor me” “I don’t know how” “I can’t”. If you’re experiencing either of these extremes it’s definitely time to look at your own personal power and to fool around with it. There is a happy medium. Like the volume control on your home stereo, you’re learning how to get it to the right setting for you. Are you delegating your power? If so how? Just observe how you may be giving away or getting in the way of your own power.
One of the many life lessons that are revealed in the finger tip patterns is feelings of powerlessness. The person with this lesson has signed up to discover her personal authority and to trust it. They must learn this lesson through feeling like they have zero power. This can be zero power in the home with the family or in the job/career or both. I often hear “But I can’t live my purpose (be happy) because of my responsibilities and commitments to the family (or job)…which, oh by the way, I didn’t have a say in.”
Steps for taking control
1) Notice where you’ve handed over your power
2) Get a clear perspective
3) Make a new choice for yourself
The result? Balance. Balance between self (e.g. standing up for the self, your feelings, your personal wants and desires) and the ‘other’ (e.g. family, career, community and government). Someone else’s plan or goals may conflict with yours. Getting into balance may require polishing up on your confrontation skills.
Who is the primary authority in your life? Does your command come from inside or outside? How do you manage your own emotions? If the skeptic is coming out to respond to or judge this information, all the more reason for you to take a look at how you’re allowing (or not) your passions and dreams to surface. Experiment with your trigger finger by creating your boundaries, standing your ground and living your passions. Stop letting others hijack your dreams.
It is perfectly natural to make mistakes along the way. Remember, we’re all moving along the path from student to master! At Life University, it’s required to do too much and too little, before we get to ‘just right’.
“Without heroes, we are all plain people, and don’t know how far we can go” said Bernard Malamud. Who are the hero’s and great leaders you look upon? And where is your ‘inner hero’? What leadership style do you value most? Is Tiger Woods a leader in golf because golf is his passion, because he enjoys competition, status, money and/or because of his father’s dream? It seems Mahatma Gandhi was driven by purpose and vision for harmony. Attributes you see in your hero are aspects you possess as well. How you develop and use your leadership skills is your choice. You may not need to be the Lord of the Sky, but you will be more fulfilled living in your authority, consciously choosing your system of influence and empowerment within and without. How are you wielding your Jupiter finger? Take a look and let me know.
By Kay Packard
One of the most effective ways I’ve found to connect with a friend, family member or partner is to understand their preferred style of relating. Coming at the relationship solely from our perspective won’t provide positive results. Imagine the benefits of knowing how the other person likes to be treated and communicated to in the relationship. This isn’t about selling out and bending over backwards to accommodate another person, this is about truly seeing another as well as yourself from an emotional standpoint.
Emotions are tricky business. Water rules the emotions. Think of how difficult it is to control water. It forms to any container it’s in otherwise it runs-amuck. Engineering, materials and man-power are required to build a dam – all in attempt to manage its contents. Compare a bucket of sand to a bucket of water. Which is heavier? Water.
So for us to have thriving relationships that deal largely with emotions we must understand the force behind emotions. And for every person this is different. There is no cookie cutter formula to adapt and connect to another person. Listening is crucial.
When interpreted, the heart lines in the hands provide astounding and reliable information about the emotional requirements system of the owner of the hands. There are four basic types of heart lines. They can be called: The Passionate (very expressive and energetic), The Nurturer (caring, connecting, and giving), The Hermit (reserved and the Doer) and The Thinker (considerate and analyzing).
The first step is to recognize your type so that you better know yourself, your needs and what is important to you. If you’re fulfilling your needs systems, you’re much more likely to be present in any relationship. “Present” may take on a new meaning once you better know yourself.
The next step is to consider the emotional type of the other person. The Passionate will express her feelings in the moment without a lot of consideration how it will impact the other person. On the upside you can trust and depend that ‘what you see is what you get’. They express what they want, now, and expect you to, too. On the down side it’s important not take their sharp and fiery responses personally. The Thinker is opposite of The Passionate. The thinker is much more considerate and deliberate in their emotional expression. Before they speak they think through many scenarios of how the other person will respond to their comments. They may even readjust their emotional system for the other person to avoid a conflict. The Passionate is comfortable with conflict, excitability, and unpredictability; The Thinker is not.
The Nurturer keeps connections in tact through socializing and coordinating gatherings. She (or he) usually likes to touch, feel and show her love. She will find out what others like and don’t like, sometimes at the expense of herself, and accommodate their needs. The Hermit, on the other hand, shows his love by doing – independently. Mowing the yard, taking out the trash, fixing the cabinet hinges is how The Hermit shows his love. He (or she) also has a non-negotiable need for freedom. Often times he finds freedom through work therefore usually gets the label “you’re busy.” If The Nurturer doesn’t feel connections and The Hermit doesn’t have space an emotional explosion will ensue. In this case ‘tears’ appear on The Nurture and the ‘predetermined escape route’ is taken by The Hermit.
It’s truly amazing any of us get along at all. But there is hope. We simply need to understand and LIVE our emotional type and bring in a bit of the opposite type. This is the stuff that’s uncomfortable. When we weave in the opposite of ourselves we become more whole and able to adapt. Ideally this creates more peace within us. Operating from a place of peace will help us to listen more deeply to another. When it’s appropriate consider turning up the volume and listening to your own and others’ needs in relationship. It could lead to one of the most meaningful experiences you’ll ever have.
Kay, Guide for Positive Change, is an Advanced Hand Analyst and Associate Faculty of the International Institute of Hand Analysis (IIHA). She leads weekend Intensives to teach others how to decode fingerprints to reveal the life purpose and life lessons, and workshops to discover styles in relationship through the heart lines, mastering life schools and more. Email kay@handfactor, call 559-561-4490 or check upcoming events on her web site.
By Kay Packard
To develop certain skills we have selected a life path to provide the climate for learning. When decoded, your hands will link you with one or two of the following: Service, Love, Wisdom or Peace. Each path has their ups and downs. Where do you fit in; service or obligation (service), connection or stuffed feelings (love), taking risks or sitting on the fence (wisdom), and lastly peace or panic (peace)? Let’s delve into the world of Peace.
The person on the life path of peace is in a peculiar predicament. The environment for their learning will consist of peace and panic; harmony and discord. They often feel like ‘someone’ made a mistake by ‘putting’ them here, in this crazy, mixed up, convoluted place. “Is someone playing a joke on me”, they might exclaim in their excitement. This life-path is designed to help a person develop the ability to feel safe in their own space. This person is seeking a deep sense of calm within her/himself. There is a tendency for addiction to adrenaline. When the rush is over there is a great sense of tranquility. The lessons include dealing with responsibilities without creating an endless chain of ‘emergencies’. In survival mode this student is struggling to stay ahead of the game and may see the body as the enemy.
You can look at your own finger tips to determine if you qualify for this path. According to the International Institute of Hand Analysis you are on the life path of Peace if you find two or more finger prints with the ‘arch’ pattern:
This isn’t about eliminating the struggle and discord or always living in quietness and serenity. We need stressors to accomplish. All contrast helps us gain perspective. The key is: Balance. What’s the remedy for converting struggle to ease?