2-Weeks to India

Kay Packard IndiaOnly two weeks until lift off from LAX to DEL. While my plans are well intended, I am also prepared for the plan to fall apart for a better outcome. I’ve spent about 5 hours trying to purchase a domestic airline ticket with IndiGo. The online reviews for IndiGo were excellent. I learned that one of my credit cards won’t ever work when trying to buy something internationally (ugh). RABO Bank was the best to work with using their issued credit card. Throughout the purchasing adventure, I chatted with about 6 IndiGo agents and they all were so helpful. My Rabo credit card has actually been charged $297USD so I’m hopeful when we arrive at the airport on Feb. 27 to fly to Chennai that we’ll actually have the appropriate reservations. Ultimately, I want Raymond and I to get to the Sri Ramanashramam in Tiruvannamalai. We have been approved to stay at the Ashram for 3 nights and I’m simply delighted beyond words. The lesson of patience and perseverance continues!

Meet the Patels

We leave for India in just over 3.5 weeks. Low and behold, “Meet the Patels” popped up on the current film options on Netflix last night. We watched it and loved it. I learned so much about the Indian culture deeply rooted in family and community. The Patels takes the meaning of tribe to a whole new level. When I worked at Boeing, in IT, our CIO was Indian. I had a number of Indian workmates then, too. More than anything I appreciate the Indian loyalty to family and friends. I love India!

India, I love you!

Kay at the Taj 2010This photo was taken of me in front of the Taj Mahal in May, 2010. I’m grateful to travel companion, Pam Beck who helped me get there. Seeing this ‘wonder’ was magical, indeed. While my experience of India, overall, toggled between the extremes of magnificence and meyhem, I have longed to returned for many years now.

My return trip is now booked in February 2016! Raymond, his daughter Samantha and her boyfriend, Kyle are going too. With the help of many friends who have been to various places, we are getting our itinerary mapped out. I am honored to help Raymond, Sam and Kyle see the Taj. More to come.

Palmistry Mounts

Ever grateful are we humans with hands.  Fingers, thumbs and palms for holding, touching and feeling people and things.  The duty of the hand is managed by the impulses in the brain.  Head itches, fingers scratch.  Phone rings, hands grasp.

From the Hand Analysts eyes, the hands reflect the preferences and capabilities of the owner of the hands.  Like the cardiologist reads the heart waves, the dentist reads the gums in the mouth and the baby reads fear on her mother’s face, palmists read the hands and decipher the owners likes and dislikes.

Take a look at your open palm at eye level, with fingers extended.  Notice the mountains erupting from the palm. They form pads on the hands. In Palmistry, these are known as Mounts. The highest mountains or Mounts tell me about your preferred behaviors and interests.  For example, if you have a full and protruding Jupiter Mount (Mount under the index finger on the top of the palm – see hand map) you will be inclined to lead, influence, and wield some level of power.  You may have people ‘following’ you because of the successful use of your trigger finger.  On a bad day you may become tyrannical and dictatorial.

Hand Mounts

The hand map shows the general areas for the Mounts and their very basic associated descriptions.  With a full Moon Mount you are imaginative, dreamy, mystical and intuitive.  These are all characteristics that support being creative; maybe even a story teller or fictional writer.

Flat Mounts on the palm are normal.  Sunken Mounts tells me you might feel limited in that particular aspect of your character.  For example, a sunken Moon Mount would indicate that mysticism, imagination and day dreaming may not be of interest to you at this time.  The condition of the Mounts can change over time as your inclinations change over time.

Blisters, cuts, bruises and warts point out life occurrences depending on the zone of the hand they are located.  At the simplest level you can say, “I feel cut off from my imagination right now” when there is a cut across the Moon Mount.  As with life, there are deeper meanings which support our personal development.

Feel free to email me at kay@handfactor.com if you have a question.  I’m available for 30, 60 and 90 minute hand readings in person or over the phone.  We’ll look at what the Mounts on your Palms have to say about you.  Your Soul’ code will also be deciphered from your fingerprints.  This is an opportunity for deeper awareness and clarity on your life journey.

Freeze Frame and Reframe Your Life Movie

 By Kay Packard

 Think of your life as an academy award winning movie. You are the creator, writer, director, producer, editor and STAR of your life-movie.  Become more empowered by watching, responding, rewriting and acting with words that will bring you an Oscar.

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 Let’s begin by observing the words we use. Out of routine, we often repeat the same words and phrases. Where did these words and phrases come from? Family, friends, bosses, TV, and society can greatly influence the vocabulary in the scripts we recite. It’s important to look at the words we rehearse so we can see if they are taking us closer to or farther away from our goals, personal power, and ultimately our life-movie-mission. Our words reflect thoughts and feelings that not only touch us, but others in remarkable ways.

 Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote “Imitation is suicide”.  To live a genuine, optimum life, take some time to reflect on this. If we don’t take charge of our words, thoughts and feelings someone else surely may.  Are you acting out someone else’s script or your own? 

Here are four steps you may find useful for your film-making.

  Step 1:  Watch.  Be aware of the words you articulate. If you’re not speaking, reflect on the thoughts you’re thinking. Our brains contain mental-highway neuro-systems paved through habituation.  Ask yourself ‘who’ authored my screenplay? In this moment your thoughts and words come to you based on the scripts written in the past. 

  The first step in making a change is to be curious; notice what you’re doing, saying, thinking and feeling. No change can be successfully made without awareness. Awareness requires being conscious. You’re moving between unconscious and conscious acts. Notice the feeling in your body when thinking or speaking associated words. Your body is an excellent indicator of what is working and not working for you.  Observe the responses in your body as you say to yourself the following words and phases:

 – Taxes 

– Purring kitty

– Petting a golden retriever puppy 

 – Winning $250 on the nickel slot machine 

  What’s happening in your body when you think these thoughts?  Just notice the feeling. When does it feel good, peaceful or uncomfortable?  Can you feel it in a particular location in your body? Does it feel heavy or light?  Do you feel a pain anywhere?  Do you feel a sense of peace and relaxation? This is where you freeze frame.  Momentarily freeze or stop your life-movie. Sit with the feeling. Acknowledge the feeling. This is about immediately recognizing your feelings as they occur in your body, so you can accurately choose your course of action. 

  Step 2:  Respond: In responding you are making a decision. You are deciding to accept, enjoy, honor, change or cut what you noticed. No one else is making the decision for you. You are managing the entire movie set. If someone else is doing the directing, remember, you hired that ‘someone’. After saying “Taxes” you may have had a sensation, then decided to respond: “I hate taxes” or “taxes don’t bother me.” You have choices; not to pay, how to pay and when to pay.  Do you like the current scene in your movie or do you want to edit and rewrite? 

  Step 3:  Reframe - What is reframing? It is looking at a situation differently, seeing it differently, maybe for the first time, and exercising our choice in words for the situation.  During a reframing process ask yourself, “Does this thought or word lift me up, do I feel better, more joy and peace, or does it take me down, do I feel uncomfortable? Feeling ill at ease guides us toward reframe! If the thought doesn’t take us closer to our ideal scene, we can change it.

  With taxes, for instance, we can coordinate with an accountant to have the precise amount deducted from our income so that we never owe money on April 15. In movies, the camera and lighting directors create their art by shooting from different angles and using spotlights for focus. In reframing, we focus on words from several angles to see which one is best for the movie.

  Step 4:  Act - It’s now time to act. The cameras are ready to roll, in accordance with your script and direction. You may be in the mode of self-correction or self acceptance. You’ve done a lot of preparation up to this point. You’ve memorized your lines, the stage is set, the other actors are in place and the clapperboard is slapped shut. We’re at Life University where we’re graduating from one grade to the next and the next. This is a work-in-progress.  It’s not about getting to perfect. Rob Reiner and Clint Eastman are writers, directors and actors of their movies. You are too. 

 Gary Craig, the founder of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), inspired me to create and lead workshops on this topic. I’ve taken words he used and added others. During a number of my workshops, participants have added alternate words for the potentially less-constructive ones.  For example, “problem” could be replaced with “challenge”. However, “problem” may not be a negative word in all instances.  It makes some people feel better to have a problem to solve. In hand analysis, the head line in the hand reflects the internal computing system. The longer the head line, the longer the time the person spends computing. A long head line needs ‘problems’ to solve. So, choose words that best define you

 Let’s further explore and test some of the words we use and notice how they encourage or derail our sense of well being. This is about seeing and hearing differently. For example when we say the word “can’t”, we may really mean something like, I don’t know how to do that yet or I’m not up for that or I don’t want to do that. To repave your well established mental-highway neuro-system, consider playing with alternate words or phrases. Say some of the words, in bold font below, and see how you feel. Then respond (step 2) and reframe (step 3) to boost your wellbeing.  

  Angry – challenged, energy release right now, opportunity to connect with my self and see what I value because it’s currently being ignored, I’m on fire (think of the benefit of fire – beauty in the colors and sounds), I’m experiencing a conflict right now, I’m allowing my buttons to be pushed.

 Anxious – energetic, contemplative, thoughtful, opportunity to be curious about the cause of this feeling, feeling a little uneasy or a bit restless.

 Exhausted or tired  – refueling, recharge, revitalizing, replenishing, rejuvenating, renewing, replacing my batteries, back burner processing for healing.

 Failure – stubbed my toe, when a door closes another opens, opportunity to overcome, gaining experience,  the most successful people have a high tolerance for failure, “I think I can, I think I can”, lesson learned, an opportunity to improve, to do over, a new start, every ‘no’ gets me closer to yes.

 Overwhelmed- my cup is overflowing right now, a bit busy, practicing multitasking.

 Panic – exhilarated, excited inside, watching what’s going on, observing what’s going on, my nerve endings are reacting, I’m alert, excited inside, amped up.

 Paralyzed – temporarily stuck, flat tire, standing my ground, time to take a breath and slow down, balancing my boundaries.

 Problem – challenge, opportunity, blip on the radar screen, issue, situation, minor inconvenience, bump in the road.

 Rejected- I feel I was misunderstood, been given new input, freed, liberated, released, exploring new ways of receiving and giving recognition and appreciation, becoming immune to rejection when it happens enough, being true to my calling.

 Stressed – energized, challenged, involved, active, driven, excessive energy flow, opportunity to be deformed- like rock lava without cracking or rupturing – rocks & minerals do this, diamonds are created under pressure.  Instead of stressed, I’m creating a diamond. 

  Why do this exercise?  What is the value in monitoring the words you use? How do the words you employ affect others around you? This is to remind you that you affirm, confirm and reinforce the influence of the words you insert after “I am ______”.

 The director and the editor have final say of a released movie.  Keep in mind, you have the last say in your Life-Movie – make it an Academy Award winner!  I’d like front row seats – please!  

  “Everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose ones own way.”  – Victor Frankl


   Kay is an Advanced Hand Analyst and a Certified EFT Practitioner. She regularly leads workshops for positive change and personal empowerment.  She gladly travels by invitation. Please visit www.handfactor.com or email kay@handfactor.com

Heart Lines ~ The Passionate

By Hand Analyst Kay Packard

The heart line is usually one of the most noticeable etchings in your palm.  A large part of your emotional requirements system can be deciphered from this one particular line.  The heart line starts on the outer edge of your palm, under your pinkie (Mercury) finger, and sprints along the top of the palm closest to the base of your fingers. For the hand analyst, the ending point of the line is the key factor in determining your emotional preferences.

Since we employ our emotions when interacting with others, I use this line to identify the relationship requirements system of the owner of the hand. Clients have found it very helpful to understand, clarify and articulate how they like to be treated in relationship? Knowing the preferences of others and adjusting to meet their needs is also crucial for maintaining relationships.

Heart-Lines 101

The Passionate Heart

Non-negotiable need: Stimulation

True Love: Passion

Theme Song: Girls (or Boys) Just Want to Have Fun

Gift: Spontaneity

Passionate Heart Line

Passionate Heart Line

The Passionate Heart line is easy to see in this photo (left) marked in red. It crosses the upper palm and ends up under the middle (Saturn) finger.

The Passionate Heart is ‘me’ oriented.  She (or he) has interactive tendencies that are fiery, excitable, fun loving, and zealous.  He or she wants spontaneity in the relationship. You and everyone else will typically know what she wants and she expects you to do the same.  When going on vacation she may select where to go and sign up for all the fun things to do based on her muse. She has no problem being the center of attention and emotionally independent (baring other contradictory markings in the hands and fingers).

Unlike the Big Heart, others’ needs and wants typically do not come before the Passionate Heart – until she’s in her advanced state.  Neither is right or wrong.  It’s all about emotional preferences in relationship at Life University.  Honoring our preferred style is a sacred act to our self.

The longer the heart line is, the more time the owner spends in it.  Because the heart line represents the emotional system and this heart line is long and curvy, there is strong desire for emotional ‘reaction’. Feelings are ‘worn on the sleeve’. When connections are broken, she typically moves on.

If you live with a Passionate Heart, two beneficial things you can do is 1) keep things exciting and 2) give her space to snap, crackle and pop.  A sharp verbal reaction with arms flailing is not to be taken personally.  Let her move through the animation.  An advanced Passionate Heart considers the desires of others too.

One of my friends has this line of “passion”.  We’ll call him Elvis.  His likes and dislikes are very strong and absolutely known.  Elvis thrives on quads, motor cycles, 4-wheeling and NASCAR. Elvis has learned to ‘include’ his wife and children by buying toys for them too – whether they want it or not.  When I visit, he puts us all in his mini-jeep and we crawl up un-chartered hillsides over rocks and through the mud.  We don’t worry; the vehicle has a roll bar!

Note of caution:  You have TWO hands, therefore two heart lines. Your dominant hand displays characteristics to the ‘outer’ public world.  Your less dominant hand shows traits revealed at ‘home’ where you’re most comfortable and not on display. The description from the heart lines are only one aspect of so many that can be read in the hands.  Also, this is not an exercise in predictions or fortune telling, although a fortune will may find!

Eckhart Tolle Hand Analysis

Eckhart Tolle Hand Analysis by Kay Packard, AHA 

While watching the DVD “Finding Your Life’s Purpose” on a whim I found myself sketching Eckhart Tolle’s left hand. After countless pausing, rewinding, forwarding and more pausing, the drawing below appeared.  While less accurate than a physical hand print or reading Tolle’s hand in person, I found this process to work quite well with an abundance of characteristics revealed. 

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First I must admit to loving Eckhart’s hands because of the impression I sense of compassion, softness, vulnerability, sturdiness, philosophy, ancient knowledge and muse.  Would I feel this if I didn’t know ‘about’ him?  I don’t know.  I didn’t see his hands prior to my profession as a hand analyst.

Eckhart’s actual palm is probably a bit wider than my roughly sketched rendition. His fingers illustrate a slightly wispy watery element. I’ve consulted my library of hand shapes to categorize his hands. 

Fitting Eckhart’s hands into any one hand-shape type is, for me, quite a challenge. I assessed the various hand shapes popularized by D’Arpentigny and Fred Gettings.  I can see a combination of Conic, Psychic and Philosophic; in that order. 

The Conic nature is motivated by surroundings and aesthetics.  Eckhart typically has flowers on stage and references them during his lectures. I wouldn’t be surprised to see a beautiful setting within and outside his home. The Conic is typically sensitive to criticism which makes it tricky to continually show up; to be reliable.  He mentioned on the recording in 2008 in San Rafael that he had thought about retiring in the previous year.  However, he got a phone call from Oprah.  It’s hard to get more approval than a solicitation and promotion from one of the most influential and recognized women in the world! 

I see the Psychic hand in terms of slenderness and smoothness of fingers but without the pointy tips.  Eckhart displays a sense of holiness and faith.  He is contemplative. 

The air-element [rectangular and shoe-box shape] is easy to spot in his hand shape.  Therefore, I also see the Philosophic hand.  One aspect of the Philosophic hand is enlarged knots.  While I would not say Eckhart has ‘enlarged’ knots they are noticeable from the back side.  This would support his efforts to bring Divine ‘reason’ into his practice.  The Philosophic type is a truth-seeker. 

In simplest terms, I identify the hand with the elements of air (mentally seeking to understand, analytic, and investigating and witty) and water (empathetic, sensitive, receptive, caring, and adaptable).  Richard Unger’s system would classify this combination as “The Counselor.”  This is the individual who seeks to understand the emotions yet is able to step away and remain detached.  Air brings order to the waves of the storming seas.  He can appear to be aloof but he really does care – deeply. 

The conic tips, on all Eckhart’s fingers and thumbs, show his creative, artistic, impulsive, quick and intuitive nature where beauty and harmony is a preferred environment. He is influenced by his surroundings.  The backdrop of his existence, at this point, is the totality of the Universe.  The challenge for the owner of these lovely tips is disapproval.  My educated guess is Eckhart may have had to work to overcome all sorts of fear of rejection in coming out to the Western culture with such new and controversial ideas as “there is no time” and/or “your primary purpose is to align yourself with this moment without [it] being a means to an end.”  The American culture has thrived on doing as a means to an end; to succeed.  

Capturing the lines in the palms of Eckhart presented the most challenge when pausing, rewinding, forwarding, rewinding, pausing, forwarding….. the DVD on my 24” Philips Magnavox television set.  However, I feel fairly confident in my final results, as shown in my diagram.  

Without a doubt Eckhart’s life line is long and deep. I do not read the life line to predict how long the owner will live.  If I did, I’d have been dead ten years ago. My life line ends at the 6th mark, age 36, on Comte C de Saint Germain’s measurement chart.  What can be said is I began a new phase of life at that time with my divorce. 

The way I read Eckhart’s life line is that he is ‘rooted into the earth’, has ability to ‘ground’ quickly, is perhaps tied into the family values and has a strong sense of vitality and alive-ness.  He inspires listeners to live-in-the-moment and cleverly encourages using the breath as a guideline. 

Eckhart’s heart line took the most effort to identify from the freeze-framing.  At first I observed a short, earth type heart line terminating below Saturn. Pamelah Landers calls this the Hermit Heart Line.  This owner can gladly claim having a non-negotiable need for freedom.  Sanctuary is a requirement.  In Eckhart’s case, he counsels followers how to find and live in freedom through experiencing the Now.  There can be no greater freedom than being present, experiencing the formless in a moment of eternal consciousness. 

Alternatively, in one section of the DVD, I caught a glimpse (on pause) of the heart line extending up toward and ending just under Jupiter. This is the water type or Big Heart heart line which illustrates the caring, nurturing, feeling, and ‘wanting to relate’ characteristics.  At this point, because I observed both types of heart lines, I won’t settle on one.  If  I’m given the opportunity to read his hands in person, I’ll let you know. 

Something I find of great interest in Eckhart’s hand is that both his head line and his fate line have a point in the Moon zone.  The head line represents the human computing capability.  Therefore he’ll have thoughts about qualities of the Moon (see below) and he will process mentally with intuition (Moon).  Ultimately, intuition is only revealed in the Now.  Eckhart has made this quite well-known; perhaps a great discovery for the West.  Richard Unger calls the upper zone of the Moon “the Eureka zone.”  Eckhart’s discovery was brought to stage with his long Apollo fingers and Apollo line, which I’ll talk about soon.  

The Moon zone also represents intuition, meaning, subconscious, imagination, dreams, inner guidance and one’s Core Identity.  With Eckhart’s fate line navigating out of this area, he’s driven from a ‘must for meaning’.  What is meaningful? This Sage wants us to ‘Know the Source of That Which runs us’. Eckhart’s drive to understand the significance of life has been a rudder for his expedition and teachings. 

Now, combine Eckhart’s nice plump and puffy upper Mercury finger zone and we have the clever and calculating brainstormer; or reformer.  He very eloquently reframes our thoughts and beliefs to perceive consciousness (Moon).  Eckhart invites us to become aware of Presence by ceasing thought.  How can we stop our thoughts and become still?  He offers three examples: 

1) Intense activity like rock climbing where the mind is only focused on the moment of hanging on.  If other thoughts enter into the scene, the climber is at risk of falling to his/her death.

2) Some sort of shock or trauma where thought ceases to be

3) Something never-before encountered enters the environment, at which time there is no thought until some form of labeling is initiated.  Then the thoughts begin again. 

Eckhart uses his talent of reframing to describe the future as simply a thought.  There is no future; otherwise it would have been discovered by now.  Both the past and the future are only thoughts.  Once we arrive into the future, it is still the ‘now.’  And the past is undeniably gone.  We restructure our perception of the past in our mental super computer. 

This man is a natural on stage.  His myriad of facial expressions boosts his performance.  His Apollo finger is longer than Jupiter thus giving more emphasis to Apollonian ways.  His long Apollo finger symbolizes his ability to be in front of a group, expressing (Apollo) ideas (Mercury), in a very creative way.  He has made a public impact (Apollo) in the healing arts (Left Mercury).  His Apollo line beginning above his heart line and veering toward Mercury shows creative (Apollo) and optimistic (Apollo) communications (Mercury).  This flair supports his role as a successful author and speaker. 

“The Thumb is like the power station that can make talents come to life,” Vernon Mahabal declares. The set of Eckhart’s Thumb is average indicating his innate ability to accomplish.  The angle of opposition is average supporting his desired range of ‘area to manage’ but not necessarily people. He’ll like to work with a group.  Others appear to be helping him ‘guide a larger (and larger) garden’ through use of electronic media but I doubt they’re acting as soldiers under his command.  I don’t get the impression Eckhart’s goal was to penetrate the world, as he has.  He has a long upper Thumb zone representing the Divine will.  He has used this to pierce into his ‘Higher will – to connect with higher consciousnesses and to be guided accordingly.  As a result he is able to listen to the ‘still small voice’ and catapult his willing students into what he finds important, valuable and meaningful. This includes self discovery, awareness and abiding in the formless substance of our True Nature. 

So what might be the bad-day scenarios for Eckhart?

  1. Fear of rejection from the public and self criticism (Apollo) (or possibly Oprah)
  2. Crisis of meaning and isolation (Moon)
  3. Forcing his will over Divine will (long upper Thumb zone)
  4. Moving into and remaining depressed (Head line into Moon zone)
  5. Inability to express his feelings (air hand shape) resulting in health issues
  6. His discovery coming before it’s time and being booed off stage
  7. Concerns about not pleasing the public and his family (conic tips plus life and head line mixing at starting point). 

 

I’d love to read Eckhart’s fingerprint patterns to determine his Soul’s calling.  Prior to birth he elected for certain course material to master at Life University.  The life he was born to live is hidden within the blueprint of those skin carvings.  The challenges decoded from the fingerprints are growth material for advancement and awakening.  He has by no means completed his curriculum.  Scholarly? Yes.  Master path?  Indeed.  Graduated? Not yet…. Fortunate for us! 

I have certainly taken immense pleasure in examining Eckhart’s left hand.  I sense the gift he offers even more deeply and profoundly.  Thank you Eckhart Tolle! 

KayPackard Kay Packard is an Advanced Hand Analyst. Her principal education came primarily from Richard Unger, founder of the International Institute of Hand Analysis and his wife Alana Unger. Her intense training began in 2003.  Kay has also been heavily influenced by current day Vernon Mahabal, Pamelah Landers and the late William Benham.  She has taught the IIHA Hand Analysis Intensive for three years and leads other workshops to encourage self discovery.  Continuing clients also experience Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to accelerate their learning and awareness at Life University.  Visit www.kaypackard.com

The Rational Romantic

Since we transmit our emotions when interacting with others, I interpret the heart line to identify the relationship requirements system of the owner of the hand. Some people find it favorable to have the ability to understand, clarify and articulate how they like to be treated in relationship. Also, knowing the preferences of others and working to meet their needs is essential for maintaining loving relationships.

 Heart-Lines 101

The Rational Romantic

Non-negotiable need: Meaning

 True Love: Conversation

Shows love through: Consideration

 Gift: Analyzing emotions

 RationalRomantic Heart Line

 The Rational Romantic heart line is overlaid with fuchsia ink (above).  It traverses the upper palm and ends beneath the index (Jupiter) finger, but farther down into the palm than the Big Heart (last issue). 

The Rational Romantic is also ‘other’ oriented.  She (or he) is considerate, thought-full, analytical and reasoning with emotions. He or she wants to think through all the possibilities of feelings and then discuss them. She likes to fulfill your requests. To her fighting is painful.   

If you live with a Rational Romantic, one of the most beneficial things you can do is 1) converse with her and 2) allow her think, think, think about how she feels, feels, feels.  To others this may appear to be ‘overprocessing’.  It’s her natural style to ‘think-through.’  Appreciate her for acting upon your wishes – as a result of her ‘processing’. 

It may be helpful to affectionately remind her to consider her own passions and to pursue them besides yours.  A balanced Romantic continues to honor others’ requests and is also comfortable voicing her own needs, wants and even demands. 

One of my life-long male friends has this heart line of reasoning in romance. He is an involved conversationalist with the crowd and his wife in the group. He can become verbally animated on emotional topics. At times I hear him clarifying what he ‘meant’ to say so that he’s understood correctly.  He’ll notice how his words affect the feelings of his wife and consider the effects. He regularly writes adoring words on cards to show his love for her. 

Cheers to living your emotional style – naturally.